Showing posts with label sharilyn Wells; PCS; military; moving; selling a house. Show all posts
Showing posts with label sharilyn Wells; PCS; military; moving; selling a house. Show all posts

Wednesday, June 29, 2016

PCS? What the WHAT?! Part 3 | Moving Day | My Hot Mess

Part 3 Y'all


So let me irritate that the movers came to my house the day before I was to return home from my annual training with the Army Reserve. Well, I fixed that because I was pretty pissed about this training and me not being able to make it up at another date. So, I switched my flight to come in earlier, the day OF the mover's packing day. 

I got off the plane to come home to this. My house basically already packed up. But let me back up a few ... 


Before I headed out on my training trip, I made three check lists for my husband and mother-in-law to use as reference to keep hidden from the packers before they snatched it up and put it in some random box. These checklists included clothes, shoes, and toys for the boys. My own clothes, along with my husbands. Folding chairs, a small table, sheets, hygiene stuff, ect. Basically stuff that we would still need once the movers took everything else. I mean, come on, we were going to be away from our shit for 4 weeks! 


The above picture is the result of those checklists. My husband piled everything we didn't want the packers to pack on our bed and told them. DON'T TOUCH!

In theory, this should have worked. Except my husband didn't expect the packers to move so fast. He forgot to grab the baby's shoes ... he forgot to grab the boy's socks, underwear and a backpack for travel. He forgot to grab the paper plates, napkins, plastic spoons and cups that I had bought especially for our week in the house without shit. The packers took our scissors and our tape. 

Guys, hide your scissors. You never know how much you need those until they're gone.

I'm serious.

The packers did however forget to pack my table place mats and EMPTY trash can. But packed our tools and FULL garbage can....

Luckily, we did swipe one screw driver from them before they threw into a box. 

Screwdriver is a must people. I'm telling ya!

Fun times making forts from all our boxes and playing pretend. What nerds. My Nerds. But Nerds none-the-less.
In a blink of an eye, our shit was all in boxes and we were forced to spend money (that we shouldn't have) on essentials again. Paper plates and all that shit. Tape, socks, underwear, diapers, wipes, ect. I mean, I DID write a list of stuff to hide, but I'll let it slide to my husband. There was a lot on his plate. And things slipped by. (But I did actually enjoy the  "told you so.")

See, I've done this before. Not really ... but I have. I'm a military brat. I've watched my parents do these moves multiple times and overseas. I didn't have to stress about anything and I'm not going to lie, there's a shit ton of stress when you're actually the one in charge. And even more stress when you're just along for the ride.

The fact that is was my husband PCSing and not me, meant that I couldn't attend certain briefs and everything was under his name and he was responsible for getting the information and I was left twiddling my thumbs waiting for the next glitter of information to float down my way.

Super stressful. Again, this was our first time ever doing this. We'd lived in our house for 12 years. I thought we got rid of a lot of shit with our yard sale and decluttering while trying to sell the house. But nope ... there was still a ton of crap I kept asking myself why we kept it.

But alas, the packers packed it and it would soon become a Texas problem rather than a North Carolina problem.

After two days of packing ... the moving truck came. This shit was getting real. We were moving. We really were moving. It all felt like a dream. Like, someone was going to pinch me and say, "Surprise! Just Kidding!"

But nope. It was real. And in four hours, the movers had our shit packed and all we had left was large, echoing rooms and bare walls to stare at.

 We did keep our computer and apple TV so that we wouldn't be too bored. I mean, what would the boys do for FOUR days without TV?! ;)

I guess the better question was, what would mom and dad do with the boys for those four days?! haha! They were heading to gramma's house while we moved to Texas and set up the new house but because of the dates the movers came, it was cheaper to wait to purchase airfare in the middle of the week. So, they waited for the fun four extra days. Plus, we had to get out of the house before the 29th, since the new owners were going to be moving in!

Tips I SHOULD have done:

1) Not had army training. Apparently I pride myself in being stubborn and hard headed, but when it comes to taking orders from my command, I take them and go. I mean, you have to. It's the Army. But I guess if I had pushed the hardship issue, I could have rescheduled my training.
2) Made my family put everything we wanted to keep into the storage unit. Yes, it would have been a pain in the ass. But it would've been helpful and then I wouldn't have been running all over the place snatching shit outta the packers hands. Which brings me to the next tip...
3)  Paid more attention to the movers. I figured they knew what they were doing. And in reality they did. Nothing went missing and nothing really truly got broken, but (now I'm talking about future here) I would have followed them from room to room and made them pack the rooms individually. When I began unpacking in the new house, kitchen shit was with bathroom shit and room shit was with garage shit. It was a mess. So I would've told them to pack by room and when the room was done just close the box and not put anything else in it.
4) Have the kids be OUT of the house. I read about this, but it just didn't seem feasible. But really, I could've just had my mother-in-law take them to the park or mall or something.
5) Labeled the boxes better. We had a lot of stuff in storage in the garage to have the house "clutter free" to sell. So a lot of stuff was just thrown into boxes with no rhythm or rhyme. Again, this plays into following the packers around. I felt very strange not doing anything while they were there and didn't want to impede their job, but you ultimately will be the one unpacking so you want the packing to be as organized as possible.
6) I gave water to the movers. But should have listened to the other bloggers and bought pizza or something for them. They took an extremely long lunch (in my opinion) and seemed they could've been done in one day rather than a day and a quarter.
7) Figure out meals for after the packers pack. We ate out a lot and honestly, that's all you really can do. But we did keep out pots and pans to cook with. This also cut back some of the food the packers wouldn't pack. (they don't do liquids or food). But since we were exhausted and hadn't planned out meals, we just didn't cook.
8) Take Xanax.  I'm kidding ... or am I?

Lemme tell ya, it was an empty feeling when we sat in our home as a family for the last time. It's truly very sad. But more on that next time!

Till then, happy packing!



Thursday, June 23, 2016

PCS?! What the What?! Part 2 | PCS Binder | My Hot Mess


This is Part 2 of my PCS adventures ... y'all ... there's going to be a lot of parts because I've never done this shit and lemme tell ya ...

This.

Shit.

Is.

Bannas.



First things first. Let me put this whole mess into perspective. 

My husband is away for recruiting school. I mean, that's the reason why we are leaving in the first place.

I'm home with my mother-in-law who was able to come out and help for a month. Guys, I'm super lucky for that. Yes it's another body in the house to add to the chaos, but not many military spouses get the luxury of help from family!

Also, I'm preparing to leave for my annual training with the Army Reserve. Oh by the way, the movers come the day BEFORE I head home. So, I'm a panic mess. 

Rule number one, don't tell a stressing military spouse/boss/soldier/momma that "don't worry, everything will work out." 

NOPE.

I repeat. 

NOPE. not the best thing to say. Also don't tell her/him that she's freaking out. That spouse has every right to freak out, y'all. THIS. SHIT. IS. STRESSFUL.

Any way, trying to relieve the stress, I searched the inter webs for anything that would be useful. I came across. Military Printables, an Etsy shop with many printable things to help ease life. Low and behold, I found a printable for PCSing. What the what?! For $15, I bought that shit and printed it out.


 Next came the laboring task of putting everything in a binder and then started to collect all the important documents that didn't need to be packed by the movers. Things like, car paperwork, shot records, passports, tax returns, veterinarian paperwork, birth & marriage certificates, and any other important thing I could think of.

Now the owner of Military Printables is a genius. "JD" as she's known on her Etsy shop is described as
"A lover of paper, design, and all things printable. I love art and getting organized (on a budget, of course!). Living day by day on the roller coaster of military life."
And I love her.

No, seriously.

I carried that binder everywhere and it was easy to tell the movers, "NO! DON'T TOUCH THAT!" LOL

She has packing checklists in there, PCS per diem info, budget tasks, charts, and graphs, and shit. Everything.

Granted, I didn't use everything I printed out, but at least she gave me some sort of starting point. Face it, I'm never going to be super organized.

Nope.

When I was made, "organization" was thrown in last minute and that's basically my life today.

No Joke.

But hopefully this helps y'all out like it helped me!

God Speed!



Saturday, May 7, 2016

PCS?! What the What?! | My Hot Mess


Okay, so lemme let you in on a little secret... So ... I've been in the military for 12 years, so has my husband. We have been a dual military couple for the past 12 years -- and you know where we've lived?

North Carolina.

Yep. Fort Bragg.



That's it.

I swear ... I'm seriously am telling the truth.

We bought a house our second year of marriage and have lived in the same house for 11 years.

Our two children have been born at Womack Army Medical Center. And both have returned to our first, and only, home here in Fayetteville, NC.

We've replaced windows, an AC unit ... painted, fixed the siding and put a new door on our house. We put gardens in the front yard. I single handedly remodeled our outdated kitchen and have remodeled my boys' rooms at least twice each.




We've endured 6, count them - 1 - 2 - 3 - 4 - 5 - 6 of my husband's DEPLOYMENTS here at Fort Bragg. And each time, we've picked him up at Green Ramp, his post unit, or the Fayetteville Regional Airport and have come back to our small and cozy home.

Photo by Junebug Photography


So let me tell ya, we were pretty excited when my husband finally came down on orders to say that we would actually would get to live somewhere else for three years. Moving to El Paso, at first seemed like a dream come true.

That is, until ...

We realized we had to SELL THE HOUSE!

What the what?!

This is OUR HOUSE. 

We put so much love into it. It's the only house our boys know. It's our home. It's our dogs' home. Our cat roams the neighborhood. He basically owns the neighborhood. Our dogs know our neighbors ... but still barks at them. Our boys' finally have friends their age in the neighborhood.

We are going to have to sell the house! As exciting and nerve-wracking at the same time it was to do, we put that "for sale" sign out in the yard and wished for the best.


We got the word we'd be moving end of 2015. We put the house on the market in February 2016. We got a low bid in March. We countered, and we lost the bid. We got another bid in April, we countered, and we agreed on a price. Things were finally getting real.

Then we got the news ... the house's roof is 20+ years old.

Well, yeah, we knew that. We were hoping to get out of here before we had to replace it.

No. Such. Luck. Chuck.

The buyers couldn't find an insurance company to insure the house because of the aged roof. So ... here we sit. Waiting on contractor after contractor to climb my roof, inspect and tell me the damage.

The cost, I'm talking. Who would've thought I'd be having to dish out money for a new roof I wouldn't even be able to enjoy?! Blah. But alas, the house needs to be sold and I want the stress of leaving this house to another young military couple a small as possible.

So here we sit. Dreading the check that will need to be written.

But hey, our PCS mantra?

"This shit will buff out."